Stupid Comment #1: Why Don't You Just Adopt?

Before I get started, let me tell you that I have no issues with adoption, either the unfortunate kids themselves, or the parents who take the time to raise someone else's child. So with that said, let the tirade begin...

One of the most common things to hear after losing a pregnancy is "Why don't you just adopt?" Apparently, losing one child (or more) suddenly makes a woman unable to carry a healthy baby to term. In fact, I am sure even women whose infants have died from SIDS are privy to hearing the same stupid comment over and over. So let us do some basic work with the English alphabet.

Most of you probably know that the English alphabet consists of 26 letters. The first letter is "A", and the last letter is "Z". One in every three women experience pregnancy loss, and for most women with a first time loss, the first step is "A", trying to conceive again naturally.

Unfortunately for many women, this does not happen, and therefore they are forced to move to option "B" or "C". When "A" does not work, the doctor does not point at them when they walk through the door and say "Yep, she's going to need to adopt!" What that doctor does is fertility testing or mild fertility drugs (and there are SO many options out there for women who are having trouble conceiving). After that, there is IUI, in vitro, etc. (perhaps letters "K" or "N" or "S". All of these are done before a woman is ruled as unable to conceive or carry a child.

So, unless it is the woman's own choice, why in HELL would you tell a woman to go straight to step "Z"?!?!

I know the answer. Obviously all of these people MUST be doctors AND psychics and they can see directly into my uterus and they just know that I will never conceive again or carry a baby to term. It must be nice being that important and special and to know this information about every woman out there. But if they're so smart, why don't they know how stupid they are?

Unfortunately even after telling one of these people that there was nothing wrong with me, this woman continued to try to convince me how wonderful adoption is. That may be true, but for many women, this is like asking her to just...give up.

So here's my solution for these people who just won't shut up. A nice muzzle.